Aces High
b1indru1er's ace / aro blog for musings and ramblings.
b1indru1er's ace / aro blog for musings and ramblings.
I’m legitimately curious. Even if you never plan on having sex/ have no sexual desires, STD/pregnancy prevention is still really useful information to have. I feel like the pros outweigh the cons, if there even are any.
Against sex ed? Not sure I know of any aces who are.
Although I think I could fairly say that it would be of little use to me (being thoroughly sex-aversive and all), and that I wouldn’t want to take it simply because I see no use in clogging my brain up with information that I will never make use of and will shortly forget.
I suppose I could see why others wouldn’t want to take it for other reasons, such as if their classmates are immature or aren’t accepting of their asexuality and use the class as a grounds to constantly probe them about it.
I do think that Sex Ed. in the US (and probably other places too, but I can’t really speak for them) needs to be reworked, but being against sex ed? No, I don’t think so.
But why would anyone who identifies as asexual even be homophobic?
I’m not denying that there are homophobic asexuals, I’m just trying to wrap my head around WHY they would be that way.
I mean it’s just…. counterproductive, really.
The entire notion of unfounded…
Eh… AVEN has a pretty homophobic vibe sometimes. Just because you’re ace doesn’t mean you don’t have biases.
ETA: And transphobic, and misogynistic, and…
Didn’t hang out around AVEN for very long (just browsed the How did you know you were ace and Best/Worst coming out experiences threads), so I couldn’t really say much about them. :/
I could still see having problems with non-sexuality related biases (transphobia, misogyny, slut shaming, etc) since coming to the conclusion that one was asexual would not necessarily call such biases into question. Contrast this with how being asexual requires that one is not attracted to the same sex, in which case it is necessary to throw out any pre-conceived notions regarding homosexuality to reach an objective conclusion.
But this is under the assumption that people behave wholly (or at least partially) rationally, when in reality people don’t and I’ll never understand why.
EDIT: I’m not trying to put aces up on some kind of pedestal, but just point out how it doesn’t make much sense for any aces to be homophobic. To use ever-popular food analogies, it wouldn’t make much sense to say that one didn’t like pie OR cake (even when there is a social stigma attached to liking pie) if one did not consider and evaluate the ‘repercussions’ of liking pie in the first place (and not to do so would be irrational). However, such introspection would not include other things, which is why some not pie or cake lovers could still make ridiculous claims about the ‘right’ way to consume desert foodstuffs, the time in which they are eaten, etc.
(Source: automatroniclockwork)
But why would anyone who identifies as asexual even be homophobic?
I’m not denying that there are homophobic asexuals, I’m just trying to wrap my head around WHY they would be that way.
I mean it’s just…. counterproductive, really.
The entire notion of unfounded bias against minority groups is counterprodutive, really.
But I could see someone who is a homophobe and a homosexual IDing as asexual, since they wouldn’t want to admit that they’re a member of a group they despise.
But honestly? I don’t understand how could someone consider themselves asexual if they hadn’t done a lot of soul-searching to see if they weren’t interested in the same/other genders first, and in order to do so accurately one must have thrown out any pre-conceived notions of what was “right” and/or “normal”.
(Source: automatroniclockwork)
So, there’s been all that fuss about that asexual fiction anthology, and how the people pushing it are clearly out of touch and don’t deserve any support from us. However, that being said, the concept of an asexuality-themed fiction anthology isn’t a terrible idea in itself.
So, who’s going to pick it up, run with it, and make it happen?
ACE POWER ENGAGE!
I’d contribute if I thought that I wrote well, especially in regards to any type of relationship…
But I’d still want to help, if possible. Maybe as an editor or something,»? I dunno.
I vote that we make it publicly available for free on the Internet, as well as in bound form. Any proceeds go to LGBTQIAetc-based charity groups.
It means that I’m not “normal”, but that I’m not broken, either.
Whenever I go to type ‘aromantic’ I accidentally type ‘aromatic’ every single time. Through association I now believe aromantics smell really good.
Or have a tendency to cause cancer.
So at first my reaction was “Yeah! They included an Other section! I could put down that I’m ace!”
…then I actually read all the options.
(Source: equiuszahhak)
Not really. Pride strikes me as being a sense of accomplishment, but if you haven’t worked towards something, you can’t achieve it, and if you can’t choose something, then you haven’t worked towards it. So Gay Pride, Ace Pride, AAAMMURICA Pride, etc. all strike me as misplaced terms.
But being happy about who you are? Yeah, that’s cool.
- Heterosexuality: You make up the majority (supposedly). It’s comparatively easy for you to find a sexual partner, but that doesn’t matter because no one wants to have sex with you anyway. Happy frustration!
- Homosexuality: If you’re male and like casual sex with strangers, you can probably find a sexual partner with the help of your iPhone. If you’re not and/or don’t, then too bad. You also face discrimination and futile crushes on heterosexuals. Happy frustration!
- Bisexuality and Pansexuality: According to most evolutionary psychologists and internet commenters, you don’t even exist. If you’re male, people will think you’re gay and closeted. If you’re female, people will think you just want attention. If you’re not male or female, people will assume you’re one or the other. Happy frustration!
- Asexuality: Good luck explaining your orientation to anyone (and having them believe you)! If you’re aromantic, welcome to your exciting new career as the Suspected Neighborhood Sociopath. If you do experience romantic attraction, you can look forward to a long string of failed relationships when your partner leaves you for someone for who doesn’t stop at cuddling. If you’re graysexual, you can experience an exhilarating cocktail of any number of the hardships listed here. Happy frustration!
- Demisexuality: You might as well join a conservative Christian church right now and buy a purity ring, because that’s what everyone thinks you’re doing anyway. Happy frustration!
(if I missed some orientations, feel free to add your own)
“If you’re aromantic, welcome to your exciting new career as the Suspected Neighborhood Sociopath.”
> is generally thought of by others as a calculating, ruthless machine
> hasn’t come out to most people
> can’t even imagine what others will think afterwards
> (generally doesn’t care anyways)
